Love is kind and patient, never jealous. boastful, proud or rude.
Love isn't selfish or quick tempered.
It doesn't keep a record of wrongs that others do.
Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil.
Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.
Love never fails!
Compassionate Communication (originally "Nonviolent Communication" oft abbreviated "NVC") developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, PhD (Marshall Rosenberg - Wikipedia) includes the following requisite aspects of respectful, honest, and peaceful speech, gesturing, emailing, phone calls and other communication methods:
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Factual Concurrence --- Gertrude: "Oh, you didn't do the dishes as I asked you." Samuel: "Sorry! I forgot and I apologize, Gertrude."
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Relatability of Feelings --- Gertrude: "Well, I thank you for apologizing. I feel somewhat better about it now."
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Expressing Yearnings --- Samuel: "I know better now how important cleanliness is to you. I'll wash these now if that's okay with you."
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Requests --- Gertrude: "Yes, please and thank you."
If you ever are involved in a conflict or heated argument, be sure to express / establish the above (with permission). The order may be critical to safely and efficaciously diffuse anger and threats, to make peace and to further relationships.
From Marshall's book we should also be mindful and present with others (like we woould want).
Further, if a need for silence is discerned it's important to respect this and so too for any privacy need or need for discretion (such as being a gentleman and refraining from bragging about a sexual experience).
Competency at Compassion Communication is critically important globally for peace and thereby to help us sustain and mayhaps further the plenty that we are so very fortunate to have thanks to the virtuous efforts of previous generations.
The Ancient Greeks distinguished eight different types of love:
EROS
(passionate love)
★Romantically kissing one's date at a high school prom★
★love-making with a spouse★
PHILIA
(deep friendship)
★remaining pen pals (by "snail mail" and--or email) with someone overseas★
★getting into safe trouble as teenagers★
STORGE
(devoted love)
★donating a kidney for a family member★
★visiting family for Thanksgiving, for Christmas★
LUDUS
(playful love)
★card games such as Go Fish, Rummy and "ERS"★
★putting "bunny ears" on someone for a picture★
MANIA
(obsessive love)
★high school crushes★
★the "bronies", men who genuinely enjoy the show "My Little Pony"★
PRAGMA
(enduring love)
★working hard for children, posterity, our future★
★virtuous efforts by such Joan d'Arc, Saint John of the Cross and Christ Himself★
PHILAUTIA
self-love
★praying the Serenity Prayer★
★paying for professional massage services after working hard all day bubble baths★
AGAPE
altruistic love
★buying a young person video games they've been wanting★
★giving people in homeless circumstance good food and water★
"The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman (Gary Chapman (author) - Wikipedia):
- Words of affirmation (compliments, praise and appreciation)
- Quality time (investing in shared experience together and giving each other undivided attention)
- Physical touch (showing physical affection, such as giving your partner a (permitted) hug or kiss)
- Acts of service (doing something that helps a partner such as running an errand)
- Gifting (giving others a present that demonstrates care and thoughtfulness)
The above is "bread and butter" for all relationships to become and remain joyous, happy, appreciated, and fun.
Examples: - Words of affirmation: "You did so good at painting!" "Wow you're so smart at computers!"
- Quality time: watching a good movie with family members, playing board games with friends, patiently listening to a partner vent
- Physical touch: hugging someone in homeless circumstance, kissing a friend (each with permission, perhaps tacit)
- Acts of service: changing a tire for people by a highway, fixing someone's thermostat
- Gifting: purchasing supplies for a dear one's school participation or new business venture
May all and each of the above bless your life and the lives of those you love.